For a while now, I have been ‘in’ the dating scene in NYC. I have grown to appreciate it, enjoy it, hate it, and scrutinize about it quite often with the girls. It is definitely the major topic of discussion at our twice monthly brunches and possibly the only thing we laugh about on a daily occasion. The stories are sometimes great, sometimes downright crazy, and at other times make us all want to call the guy and ask him what he was thinking?
My close friends and I are comparable to the Sex and the City girls in a sense that we always hae new dating gossip, new boy drama, and laughs galore. It’s great when we get together, although if you’re of the opposite sex, it might seem a bit overwhelming. We are all very strong, successful, and opinionated women.
The reason why the dating world in NYC is so tough (but so much fun) is because of the men in the city of course. It is almost a fact that men in the city do not look for wife material until way after 29 or so…if not much later. So, when you are a 26 year old woman, excited to date, and possibly have children before you hit 30…well, it’s not going to happen here. I am not one of those woman, as I myself have succumb to the cities career-oriented-agenda, but it is possibly one of the things that out of staters/westerners/southerners find odd. Many of my friends are from Kansas and they have all said that if they were still living in Kansas, they were most likely expected to be married already. To me…this is beyond reasoning.
I grew up around here my whole life and have always known that getting married is an ultimate goal of mine, so that I can start a family and age with my best friend (or so I hope). This takes time. In NYC…its takes more than time. It takes a career, the right timing, stability, financial means, status, looks, health, and oh so much more.
Although sometimes the Dating Scene confuses me in NYC, I think it is an important part of my recently adult life. What better way is there to find out exactly what you want and don’t want in a partner? How else can I learn so much about myself and my dating habits? And what a perfect way to get out, experience the city, and meet a whole bunch of really great people?! I wonder if men in the city think of it this way too??
To those men I have dated, to those i will: thank you 
